How do you keep your cool?
In these dog days of summer, it’s not just about keeping your body cool. When the thermometer start to rise outside sometimes it’s easy for temps to rise internally, too! Do you ever find yourself feeling short-tempered, impatient, or just plain agitated? Of course you do! We all do from time to time. The heat of the summer seems to make our fuses run short.
Couple the heat with the mixed blend of personalities of those around you, the hectic schedule you keep, and any other daily stresses, it’s good to be reminded of the 3Rs.
If something is bothering you, holding things in doesn’t make it go away. You should either make the decision to let it go or to clear the air. If you decide to speak up and address your feelings, be aware of your tone of voice as you choose your words. Treating people with kindness and respect during difficult discussions is always the best avenue.
Be supportive of others. Not everyone has the same interests as you, and that is perfectly OK. For example, you may not want to join the local rock climbing club but you can be supportive if your best friend does. On the flip side, if you want to sky dive, support the fact that your best friend may have no interest. Respect of hobbies, job, and interests should go both ways in any relationship.
Sometimes you need to compromise. This doesn’t mean “do it my way this time so we’ll do it your way next time.” Find out what really matters most to each of you and work toward those goals together. It takes some flexibility from everyone all along the way.
Loyalty is important in relationships. It comes out of dedication, love, commitment and devotion to the well-being of another.
Admitting to your mistakes takes courage and integrity. It’s never good to try to hide things. Everyone makes mistakes. It makes things better if you confront them, admit to them, learn from them, and move on.
If you say you are going to do something, then do it. Honor your word. This means so much to those you know and love.
In any relationship, remember to be eager to listen, slow to anger, and slow to react.
Lend a helpful hand when you can. Being helpful to grandparents, your spouse, kids, and even strangers not only makes you feel better, but it also makes the world a better place. Some people we help because we love them, others because it is human nature to assist where we can. Either way, it’s a win-win situation for sure.
Take initiative and avoid procrastination. Show up, do the job, and do more than what is expected. Your efforts will be rewarding and appreciated. Some people feel they work better if they put everything off until the very last minute. Then what happens? Their stress level skyrockets and tensions rise. Chronic procrastinating doesn’t make for a responsible person.
Finally, accept the consequences of your actions whether they are good or bad. Sure, you need to own up and face what might happen if you fumble and make a mistake, but just as important, you need to accept a compliment. If someone pats you on the back and tells you, “Job well done,” don’t look toward the ground and say, “Oh…it was nothing.” Accept the compliment. Say “THANK YOU!”
Accepting the kind compliments from others no matter how minor they may seem shouldn’t be taken lightly. Far too often we are too hard on ourselves and dwell on our flaws or mistakes. We should shift our focus on all the good we create in this world. When you make it a habit to accept positive comments rather than brushing them aside, you will feel good and spread the positivity.
This hectic world has its fair share of stresses. You have the choice of how you react to what life throws at you. We believe the 3Rs are the foundation that helps maintain our perspective when life gets tough.
Do you ever stop and think about the 3Rs? We encourage you to drop us a note and let us know about your 3R habits.
Keep your cool and stay in touch.